] Regarding fashion, I have observed in the adaptations that sometimes the ladies of different age and station wear different colors in their attire, am I being paranoid? does this have any meaning, or was it like it is today, a color free-for- all? Did the color of dress reflect on a ladies's character or statuS

Married ladies of the day or spinster ladies of a "certain" age were expected to wear darker, sombre colours befitting their more senior, serious station in life...greys, blacks etc. While they could wear lighter, brighter colours as evening attire, during the day, they were expected to wear more matronly attire and colours. So to answer your question, the coulors refelcted ones position in their life cycle, as opposed to social status.

Pale, pastel colours were reserved for younger unmarried ladies. These white-ish, unsullied colurs were representative of their innocent, virginial state.

One of the best descriptions of this fashion colour dilemma, comes in the first few chapters of Gone With The Wind, oddly enough. It may be set 50 odd years after Jane Austens novels, but it gives a wonderful depiction of the fashion choices and colours available to a young lady, before and after her marrige.